We can sometimes put up with a lot. Behaviours, words, situations & scenarios all because we love a person. When we understand that loving ourselves more is what serves us and in prioritising the love or tolerance or someone else is depleting us we can take some action. We cannot make someone love us by giving them more of something they don’t already appreciate. People treat you how they feel about you. When we can accept this for what it is, without exceptions, justifications or explanations it’s helpful. If you’re a priority you will be treated like one. If someone wants to communicate with you, they will. If they wanted to they would have. What we allow is what will continue. People will often take all of what we are willing to give. Loving someone isn’t about tolerating everything. Having boundaries is a way of teaching someone how to love us. Loving ourselves is about having these boundaries and enforcing them. Sometimes people don’t actually love us, they love our lack of boundaries. That’s ok. When we know better, we do better. When we lose someone because of a boundary we have gained back something for ourselves. Say when something is not ok. It’s not always an easy thing to do, but the peace and love we deserve is on the other side of the discomfort we are avoiding.