Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish

We have grown up around views and thoughts that putting yourself first is somehow wrong, that somehow it’s selfish. There is a reason on an airplane safety message that it instructs us to fit our own oxygen mask before helping others. It’s so we can breathe and be able to help without running out of oxygen ourselves in the process. You cannot help everyone, but everyone can help someone. Oftentimes that person needs to be us first. Putting everyone else’s life ahead of your own does not count as love. You simply cannot pour from an empty cup. When we are able we should help people, we should do what we can; But only after we have helped ourselves and done what we can for ourselves as a priority. It isn’t selfish it's sensible. When we don’t do this, we can burn out, we get tired, we get sick. Then we cannot help anyone let alone ourselves. Prioritising our health, our goals and our lives is not selfish, it’s helping us to be able to help others.

Sometimes when we help others it’s an unconscious way to delay helping ourselves. It’s a form of procrastination, a form of self-sabotage. Sometimes it’s easier to focus on someone else’s problems instead of our own. Maybe we feel guilty, maybe we don’t think we know how. Whatever the reason it is worth the thought and the reflection. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish.

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