‘Why are they so mean?’ This is a thought we sometimes get. When we don’t understand a behaviour, we see or hear something that makes us uncomfortable. When someone is gossiping, blaming or saying unkind things about or to someone else. They may use humour or sarcasm as a shield or an excuse. They may use it as their way to try and connect with others. Whether it is a flippant remark or a focussed attack on someone else it’s the same thing. It’s unkind, unhealthy. It’s mean. A person’s behaviour is only ever a reflection from what is within themselves. We project how we feel inside, if we feel good about ourselves we project good. When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we don’t project good. It doesn’t excuse it, but it explains it. Only people that are unhappy with themselves are mean to others.