When you learn a person’s behaviour is more to do with their own internal struggle than it ever did with you, you have grown. People are always doing their best, even when we don’t think they are. We have our own experiences, our own thoughts, our own feelings, everyone does. It is these experiences, thoughts and feelings that drive our behaviour. When someone is thoughtful and loving, that is coming from inside them. When they are not that is also coming from inside them. People project what they have inside at that time. What we receive and what we understand is up to us. We will forever be disappointed if we expect everyone to be like we are. If we choose to believe people are doing the best they can with what they have at that time, we become more compassionate and our life gets better. We are responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, actions and words. No one elses, their thoughts, feelings, actions and words are up to and about them. Being aware of this, understanding this and accepting this is growth.