It’s important for our self-esteem to really recognise our efforts, when we know we have done our absolute best, when we know we couldn’t have done any better. Celebrating our best efforts and rewarding them connects recognition to effort not outcome. We cannot always influence or control an outcome, but we can always influence and control our efforts. If we only ever celebrated our accomplishments, we may not ever have much to celebrate, especially when starting out on a new goal or skill development. When we do something for the first time it’s hard enough practising and learning and potentially failing many times before we eventually succeed. Celebrating real effort can help keep us going, we know when have done well and we know when we have really tried. The outcome doesn’t need to be relevant for reward. We need to celebrate effort over accomplishment.